In the past few weeks, I have been catapulted into pondering what being an expert really means (to me), and why I have never held the opinion that I am an expert on or in anything.
I’ve encountered a number of individuals who are, without a doubt, all the foremost authorities on virtually everything and even some stuff I know about. These super maven-y expert types have too many feats to list. Seriously, if you ask them, they’ll likely barf all of their super genius expert powers on your lap.
When I meet a self-proclaimed expert, I almost always become thoughtful and even concerned about their self-esteem. At other times, I am impressed and thrilled to witness so much self-assuredness. The difference in my own perception usually has to do with the delivery of expertise.
When I think of all of my past resumes, interviews, jobs and relationships, I wonder how much, if ever, I communicated that I was an expert, though I’d never felt like one. When I was younger and still finding myself, or when my confidence had been rocked, did I act like a foremost authority on virtually everything? I don’t think so, but I can’t be certain.
I really enjoy being a self-proclaimed non-expert. This is not self- deprecation. I realize I have expertise in certain areas and some of these areas are quantitative. Still, I am always questioning my moves and have an insatiable hunger to learn and grow. Do self-proclaimed experts block themselves because they know more than others? Do they feel pressure to know the answers because they’re an expert? Are they dishonest for fear of simply not knowing? Do they feel fraudulent?
I have heard numerous men reference themselves as “expert lovers.” For me, this is always a terrific sign to communicate to them, my heartfelt commitment to living a life of terminal celibacy. Either that, or run away as fast as I possibly can. Okay… BOTH.
What is an expert to you? By literal definition, we are all experts on many subjects.
I seek to understand and learn. What defines an expert for you? Are you an expert? Talk to me.